Do you feel like you aren’t good enough? Do you feel like someone else deserves success more than you? Are you remembering the times that your parents criticized you, and those words are what’s holding you back? Do you feel victimized, and want to shed those limiting beliefs from childhood? Who hasn’t had a tough childhood? I don’t know many people who haven’t. Complaining and lamenting on how terrible your parents were isn’t going to reinstate your self-confidence. It is important to know where your beliefs came from, but now it’s your job to restore the self-confidence you need to be a functioning and healthy adult. So, how do you go about rebuilding your self-confidence?
Here are 7 steps to building self confidence.
1. Be clear on who you are, and focus on where you are going. You must know who you are and what you want in life in order to get it. If you don’t know, find out. Ask yourself questions and search for answers.
2. Accept the truth about yourself both good and bad, and be okay with it. Know your strengths and know where you need improvement. We all have them; utilize your strengths and build up your weaknesses. Successful and confident people do this all the time. They don’t allow their shortcomings to hold them back, they improve upon them.
3. Surround yourself with like minded and supportive people. There is a magical energy being around supportive people. They can help you get you to where you want to go, and encourage you to be your best.
4. Start with achieving small and easy goals, and work up to larger goals. Acknowledge your achievements no matter how small they may be. This is a great confidence builder. If you achieved a small goal, pat yourself on the back and work on a bigger goal.
5. Recognize and release destructive habits from the past. This also includes disguised sabotage. Our past may be a mixed bag of supportive and non-supportive conditioning. If you find that your habits are destructive, change them. Awareness is the beginning of change.
6. Focus on the positive not the negative. Instead of complaining on what doesn’t work in your life, focus on what does work, and how you can get it. What you focus on, you will receive.
7. Look for the positive changes that you have manifested. Even if they are small ones, it counts. Look for the ways that you have made improvements in your life. This will give you a sense of empowerment and confidence to keep setting new goals.
There is nothing more appealing than a confident individual. Finding your passion and living your truth is the best way to build your confidence, and live a fulfilling life.
Marla Sloane, Ph.D.
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